How To Get Rid Of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and experience real happiness

9Do you know you have a ‘Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO)?

Check for how long can you survive comfortably without checking your whatsApp / Facebook / Email / Instagram / whatever is your thing?

Yes! We all (most of us) as a society are in the grip of this joy sucking silent fear, which disguises itself into fun & excitement and creeps silently in our heart and mind, without us realising at all.

The symptoms are obvious.

Feeling of being anxious and hustled,  never being fully present in the moment (always thinking of what next to do).

Overwhelmed with things to do, but still procrastinating important things.

A constant niggling sensation of checking or posting something on WhatsApp / Email / Facebook / Instagram again & again (as if this is happening involuntary).

We feel agitation or anxiety of unknown, find ourselves stressed and less than and wanting more in life… even lose focus many times.

Always have a feeling of busyness but not fulfilment, reduced productivity as well as satisfaction and so on…

Read my full article to… Check if you’re suffering from FOMO and get a full picture here!  

Once you realise that you’ve fear of missing out (example – while you know and get irritated by the fact that why do people need to share how their breakfast look like and which movie they’re watching with whom, which city or hotel they’ve checked in; you still are surfing their pictures), it’s time to get rid of it.

Let’s talk about how to say Bye to FOMO:

‘Because when you do; you say hi to peace, balance and true bliss in life and naturally enhance the quality of your relationships.’

First step to get rid of anything is “AWARENESS”.

1. Be aware of it:

Do not deny or try to justify it, just be aware of it and accept it. Rushing around 24×7 is quite stressful and unfulfilling. And the only thing worse than that is spending most of your time surfing and living on social networking sites.

2. Get a grip on reality:

We all know that social media is just a virtual world and how someone’s life appears on social media is not the whole reality.

Even if you look at your own timeline, you’ll get that. You can see that your life is not only those rosy pictures of your holiday and parties, rather life happens in between. When you’re facing challenges every day, and managing them to your best ability.

Similarly, what we see for others is also just a tiny part of their life and not their actual life. We all know “Grass is always greener on other side.”

What we see is only what others want us to see, not the whole reality and what we see might not even be true.

Understand, when you spend your time going through the super cool n perfect pics on FB or Instagram with envied eyes and feel bad about it; what you’re really missing out is – “Your own Life”.

3. Focus on the real experience and not just the image of it:

What we see in the virtual world are just the images or symbols of what we think a good life is. No-one knows what happens behind the closed doors of a beautifully decorated luxury home, or how much fun or fights someone really had on their extra luxurious beach holiday.

Focus on your experience of life!

Pay attention to what you want to create in your life – fun, fulfillment, connection, love, intimacy, great relationships and focus on creating them.

When you’re having a great time with your friends and family, focus on them and your experience, not on sharing with others how wonderful time you had.

By doing that you only undermines your own experience as you can not be fully present in that situation.

4. Slow down and savour the moments:

This one thing can exponentially change the way you experience life in this manic society, where everyone is asking you to hustle is, SLOW DOWN.

Once you do, you’ll start savouring the moment. When you pay full attention to the person next to you, by being fully engaged in the moment; you’ll experience a different kind of joy and bliss…you won’t even feel a need to take a selfie and show to the world how happy you are.

It’s not the kind of excitement that gives you thrill and adrenaline rush but surely it’s more fulfilling and long-lasting as you feel connected to life force energy and yourself.

It has a direct impact on your emotional well-being.

5. Know in your heart and tell yourself that you’re not missing anything at all

You can not believe it till you experience it.

Take a complete break for at least a week from Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram… and whatever you spend your time on! And notice what happens!

First thing you’ll realise that your world didn’t come to an end. You’re working perfectly fine, rather you’re much more relaxed, focussed and productive, even more creative and fun to be around.

Read here What surprises I got when I took a whole month digital break from my phone!!

6. Start following your joy!

Pay attention to things you love to do, which make you forget every thing else. Which takes you in a zone of flow…you’re fully present in the moment.

Whether it’s spending time in nature, or with your family / friends, art, music, playing an instrument or contributing to a social cause.

7. Read some wonderful books!

Now that you’re open to this new idea of taking break and limiting your time on social media, you’ll have enough time to read.

Read amazing books, some of my favourites are – Power of Now, Thousand names of joy, Return to Love, Fountainhead, illusion, Jonathon Livingstone Seagull… the list is long.
Once you start enjoying the books, or things that you like; you’ll notice these things will naturally attract you and keep you away from your phone.

Phone will only serve what’s it’s purpose is and not start controlling you.

8. Pay attention to little joys of life!

Start paying attention to little joys in life. Inviting a friend over tea, conversations over meals, playing with children, just relaxing without a phone… all these are blissful activities in itself.

9. Keep your eyes on your higher goals:

Last but not the least, know your higher goals and keep your mind and eyes focussed on them.

Write down what is your higher purpose in life?

Do you want to be a loving and caring person? Do you want to do great in your role as a parent, a friend, a professional? Do you want to have great relationships? Do you want to be good in a certain skill?

Figure out your goals, and find out what you need to do to achieve your goals – read, learn, talk to people who’re already good at that, reflect, practice or meditate in order to achieve what you want.

When you’re focussed on your goals, you don’t get distracted by petty stuff in life.

But when you stop taking charge of your life and lose control over your mind; gadgets or mediums which bring momentary pleasure start controlling you!!

“The moment you become aware and conscious of this and take full control of your choices in every moment, you are a winner and start rejoicing in inner peace and determination.” 

If you’ve already got rid of FOMO, would love to know how you did that. If you’re working to get rid of it, share your experience with me.