“Life always gives you what you need, not what you want.”
Working with couples and individuals for relationship coaching, I often hear doubts in close relationships like whether the person is right for me or not, do I even need to be in a relationship or not.
Relationships can be a source of huge pain and suffering as well as of ultimate bliss. Isn’t it true that the relationships, especially the close ones are the best fertile ground for our ultimate evolution and growth.
So the moment this question comes to your mind, whether you need this person (your partner or any other close relation) in your life or not?
The answer is – Yes!
You definitely need this person in your life because “that’s why they are there in the first place”.
(Disclaimer: We are talking only about healthy relationships here, not absusive ones).
Your mind might be able to create thousand stories why this might be a mistake on your part. The truth is there is no mistake in this universe.
Your purpose here is self realisation…and experience this life the way it is, with full expansion of your spiritual existence in the physical realm.
In close or intimate relationships, everything you judge in other, is a reflection of a part in you. This is usually a part of yourself you are not ready to see or accept or even are aware of. It might not be that obvious, the deeper you observe and reflect, the more you’ll be able to see that.
Once you see that and accept that wholeheartedly; the transformation begins.
The one thing that you really really need in your relationship is “what you have right now”. That’s the perfect alchemy and gift of universe in this time space dimension.
It’s not about accepting unwanted or disrespectful behaviour, rather seeing the opportunity of self-growth.
Every single person, incident or event in your life, is going to help you in your ultimate spiritual growth, whether you know it or not.
The moment you realise and truly accept this, you surrender. No more thoughts or fear of past or future…nothing. Just complete surrender to ‘what is’.
And you are ready to become who you are!
Much love.