We all seek for harmonious and joyful relationships, as in there lies the true bliss; the joy of living! To achieve that, we need to claim our personal power and realise the truth of who we are. Let’s find out 3 most important keys for transforming any relationship you have.
KEY 1 Take full responsibility for your happiness
Once you realise that your happiness is not dependent upon what your partner or other person does or doesn’t do, you become free and also set them free. That’s the best gift you can give to yourself and your partner. Taking full responsibility for your own happiness (after all this is your emotion and comes from inside of you and nobody else) and stop expecting that its other person’s job to make and keep you happy, can solve many relationship problems.
How to activate this Key: Do one thing every day that you enjoy, which nurtures your soul and brings you alive like a child. It can be dancing, singing, playing, a walk in nature, cooking or painting; cultivate a hobby if you don’t have one yet.
KEY 2 Notice where is your focus
What you put your attention on, grows; it’s a proven fact. Your partner is a unique gift to you; there is none else on this planet like you or your partner. Embrace this uniqueness and never compare yourself or your partner with anyone else.
How to activate this Key: Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate genuinely & lavishly (yes, you can find things about your partner to appreciate).
Notice where is your focus; are you irritated that your partner’s forgotten to pick up the wet towel from bed or are you feeling grateful that he’s got your car repaired.
Do you feel thankful for small gestures of love or always seek for more and concerned about your relationship problems. Gratitude has high energy and so is complaints and grudges. Decide which one you want more in your life and shift all your focus to it. It surely will multiply beyond your expectations. “The trick is to ignore the unwanted.”
KEY 3 Communicate through your heart
Communication is not about telling other the right way of doing things and what you want. That’s what we do more often than really communicating. It’s listening through our eyes, ears and our heart; this kind of listening has the power to heal not just a person but any relationship.
How to activate this key: For one full week hold on to all your judgements, assumptions about what other person (anyone) is going to say or mean and listen fully with your heart with an intention to really understand, assuming you don’t know.
While communicating, look at others with soft eyes (compassionate eyes which don’t judge) and you will experience a deep sense of peace.
Summary: Key points to remember
- You’re the only one responsible for your happiness
- Do something fun n joyful, without need of anyone else
- Change your focus to things you’re grateful for
- Genuinely like and compliment other
- Listen with your heart (without judgment)
There are many more keys to make relationships blissful, and these three are really a good start. Happy unlocking!
If you’re already using these keys in creating joyful relationships, please share. I would love to know. If you’ve found more keys to bring joy and happiness in your relationships, do share with us too.
Very nice