We all want to feel loved. me too.
In my journey of understanding love, this is what I realised…
Since childhood, I just wanted to feel loved and even after having an extremely loving family, partner and friends, I was used to feel lonely from time to time.
In the moments, when I’m captivated by wanting to feel loved, versus really knowing the ‘TRUTH’ in the depths of my being that ‘I AM already being loved’; I stop being love, and start wanting more of it, also start noticing more when I’m not feeling loved.
The more I notice this, the more I find it. And the need to ‘feel loved’ starts to run my life.
The more I want to be loved, the less I receive (irony of life!), because my focus is only on my need which is not getting met.
Huge need for validation and appreciation emerges from that, and leads to – expectations, hurt, unease in relationships, withholding truth, in order to be liked and loved.
Feeling of loneliness arises when not getting my needs met, and I dismiss the truth in my heart, that no matter what I’m being loved.
‘BEING LOVED’ is a soulful experience that comes from within.
When we limitlessly, unconditionally love ourselves for exactly who we are, where we are in our journey, with all our flaws and imperfections. Then we stop needing it that much from the outside.
The challenge with ‘feeling loved’ is that it is limited and dependent on other person, hence can be taken away from us anytime and can leave us feeling devastated. It depends a great deal on our love language as well, and our loved ones might not have the same love language as us.
While ‘Being loved’ means I live in love. I become love.
My coach told me – Just LOVE YOU. Exactly as you are.
And when I do, my love for myself strengthens me, energises me, it opens my heart. It allows me to experience my wholeness.
When I am in that place of love, I am an instrument of divine love and I want to extend that love to every being, and I fuel everything with that love. The mundane, my work, my relationships. Everything.
Know that if you don’t ‘feel loved enough’ or feel ‘unlovable’ or ‘not worthy of love’; you are not broken.
You’re just spellbound in your circumstances, and your thoughts about your circumstances.
When we realise that our own thinking and feelings can stop us from experiencing deep love, we can pause.
We can look into the deeper terrains of our being and start exploring love, as if for the first time. And we always find it, if we are patient enough.
We feel at home, as we’ve never left, anyway.