No doubt, life is very busy and we all try to multitask.
As parents, we often juggle between work, kids, and household chores in order to manage things smoothly. And many of us proudly claim the title “Master multitasker,” but you might want to think twice about trying to do so many things at once.
You’ve kept your house spotless, your kids are well fed and clothes properly arranged and all done, but if your children do not feel important and cared about. Is it really worth it?
Researches show that quickly switching between tasks and focussing on many things together releases stress hormones and causes us to feel agitated and we naturally pass on the irritation to others around us.
However great we are at keeping all the balls in air, we all have felt those moments of despair when we could not handle it all, any more.
Sometimes our penchant of multitasking can take a toll on our life and of our loved ones too.
When your spouse comes home or your child wants to share something with you, they just seek for one thing – your undivided attention. Not a super human; who can listen, answer, text, manage dinner and also plan for holiday, all at the same time.
If you find your kids are becoming aggressive and rebellious; it is a desparate plea for your compassionate attention. If you realise your children do not share things with you ; it is a red signal that something is missing in your relationship.
What happens in the midst of this busy, exciting and perfectly chaotic life; a child might feel lost, less heard, not understood. A spouse might feel lack of love and connection and life becomes just a chore of managing responsibilities. Isn’t it?
If your child or spouse complain that you’re always on phone or laptop; it is an alarm bell. Time for some change!
So what can we do? When there’s so much to manage. Here are some of the ideas:
# Priortise and cut down your to do list to really important and significant things.
# Be Present to your family and really listen, with your heart.
# Give your undivided attention (at last 20-30 min to each child every day); whenever you’re with them.
# Provide undivided attention and connect to your spouse everyday too (Undivided means you’re not available for any phone calls, messages, what’s app, FB or mails etc.) Even you can tell your kids, that you both need to discuss something and not to be disturbed for few minutes.
# Take time to relax, introspect and be with yourself, that will help you slow down.
# Listen to your inner voice that will tell you what is it, that really matters for you and your family.
What is your experience of handling many things together and multitasking as a parent, please feel free to share and also ask if you’ve any questions.
I would love to hear from you.
Much Love.
Thank you dear Deepa. Glad you liked it.